Today was one of those days in motherhood that was just down right hard. Momma’s, I know you all have had those days!
Months and months of sleepless nights have piled up. My baby is struggling through teething and I hate to see him in so much pain! Let’s be honest, shards of bone breaking through tender flesh is not fun for anyone!! Today, I had moments where I lost my patience and used an unkind and unwarranted tone with my sweet babies. I burned the grilled cheese sandwiches while I was trying to console an over tired, teething baby. My perfectionistic tendencies really took a blow…..I DO NOT Burn food! Of course this wasted 4 pieces of bread and 3 slices of cheese, not to mention what little energy reserves I was using.
These were not my most Properly Stylish moments but, they happened.
It’s funny how burning a grilled cheese sandwich can send you into a self deprecating tail spin of feeling inadequate. I immediately began to see all of the ways that I do not measure up as a mother and wife. As I was spiraling out of control in my thoughts, Stella was encouraging me in her sweet little way.
Stella : “Oh mom, you burned the grilled cheese. It’s ok! You can make another and next time turn the fire down and watch it very closely. Wow! My tummy is growling so loudly…I must be realllllllly hungry.”
I both laughed and cried listening to her. I took a deep breath, told myself “I AM enough,” and began to prepare the second round of sandwiches.
As women, we are often times juggling many responsibilities and trying to excel at every one. We leave very little room for failure or acting in any way that is less than perfect. The truth of the matter is that none of us are perfect and never will be! It’s an unattainable trait that we try so desperately to achieve. I would never want Stella or Liam to feel the pressure to be perfect in anything they do. As a matter of fact, I tell Stella very often that her best efforts are enough and she never has to feel like she has to be “perfect.”
Parenting can be the best teacher and failing can be one of the greatest gifts! Both require us to strive to be the best version of ourselves!
With both babes on my lap, I apologized for losing my patience and burning the grilled cheese sandwiches. Stella immediately said those beautiful words that set us free and give us room to grow, “I FORGIVE YOU mommy and I LOVE YOU even though you burned the grilled cheese!” Forgiveness is such a beautiful gift! All was well!
As I prepared the second batch of sandwiches with a crying babe on my hip, I gave myself permission to fail. I gave myself permission to have a less than spotless home, to sleep in my makeup and have messy hair, to not always have the perfect meals prepared with the best ingredients, and to fail without it defining who I am.
I want to be a positive example for my babies. I realized that striving for perfection does not set a realistic example for them. Thank you God for grace and forgiveness!
What truly matters is that my family feels and sees the love I have for them.
Even though I am enormously flawed, I am enough in this moment!
I hope my challenging day encourages you! You are doing a wonderful job and you are so loved!
Lunch may have started black, crusty and undesirable but it ended up pretty fantastic! Oh the lessons we learn!
Failing can be Properly Stylish….as long as you give your best efforts and learn from your mistakes!
Take care of yourselves and love yourself well…..that is Properly Stylish!