What Burning Grilled Cheese Sandwiches Taught Me….

Today was one of those days in motherhood that was just down right hard. Momma’s, I know you all have had those days!

Months and months of sleepless nights have piled up. My baby is struggling through teething and I hate to see him in so much pain! Let’s be honest, shards of bone breaking through tender flesh is not fun for anyone!! Today, I had moments where I lost my patience and used an unkind and unwarranted tone with my sweet babies.  I burned the grilled cheese sandwiches while I was trying to console an over tired, teething baby.  My perfectionistic tendencies really took a blow…..I DO NOT Burn food! Of course this wasted 4 pieces of bread and 3 slices of cheese, not to mention what little energy reserves I was using.

These were not my most Properly Stylish moments but, they happened.


It’s funny how burning a grilled cheese sandwich can send you into a self deprecating tail spin of feeling inadequate. I immediately began to see all of the ways that I do not measure up as a mother and wife.  As I was spiraling  out of control in my thoughts, Stella was encouraging me in her sweet little way.

Stella : “Oh mom, you burned the grilled cheese. It’s ok! You can make another and next time turn the fire down and watch it very closely. Wow! My tummy is growling so loudly…I must be realllllllly hungry.”

I both laughed and cried listening to her. I took a deep breath, told myself “I AM enough,” and began to prepare the second round of sandwiches.

As women, we are often times juggling many responsibilities and trying to excel at every one. We leave very little room for failure or acting in any way that is less than perfect. The truth of the matter is that none of us are perfect and never will be! It’s an unattainable trait that we try so desperately to achieve. I would never want Stella or Liam to feel the pressure to be perfect in anything they do. As a matter of fact, I tell Stella very often that her best efforts are enough and she never has to feel like she has to be “perfect.”

Parenting can be the best teacher and failing can be one of the greatest gifts! Both require us to strive to be the best version of ourselves!

With both babes on my lap, I apologized for losing my patience and burning the grilled cheese sandwiches. Stella immediately said those beautiful words that set us free and give us room to grow, “I FORGIVE YOU mommy and I LOVE YOU even though you burned the grilled cheese!” Forgiveness is such a beautiful gift!  All was well!

As I prepared the second batch of sandwiches with a crying babe on my hip, I gave myself permission to fail. I gave myself permission to have a less than spotless home, to sleep in my makeup and have messy hair, to not always have the perfect meals prepared with the best ingredients, and to fail without it defining who I am.

I want to be a positive example for my babies. I realized that striving for perfection does not set a realistic example for them. Thank you God for grace and forgiveness!

What truly matters is that my family feels and sees the love I have for them.

Even though I am enormously flawed, I am enough in this moment!

I hope my challenging day encourages you! You are doing a wonderful job and you are so loved!

Lunch may have started black, crusty and undesirable but it ended up pretty fantastic! Oh the lessons we learn!


Failing can be Properly Stylish….as long as you give your best efforts and learn from your mistakes!

Take care of yourselves and love yourself well…..that is Properly Stylish!




Breakfast for Dinner….Why, Yes Please!

Breakfast for Dinner is very Stylish!

Who doesn’t love breakfast food….especially when it’s for dinner?  In my home, breakfast for dinner is a great treat! One of our family favorites is pancakes! While I love them, the mommy and wife in me recognizes they are not filled with nutrition. So, I came up with my own pancake recipe and added some healthy ingredients. I should note that I very rarely follow a recipe. My momma taught me to “add a little bit of this and a little bit of that!” Feel free to do the same! 🙂

Cinnamon and Oatmeal Pancakes!

Ingredients you will need:

3/4 cup milk

2 tablespoons white vinegar

1 cup all-purpose flour

2 tablespoons white sugar

1 teaspoon baking powder

1/2 teaspoon baking soda

1/2 teaspoon salt

1 tablespoon sugar

2 tablespoons cinnamon

2 cups old fashioned oats

1 egg

2 tablespoons butter, melted

cooking spray

**You can use a store bought pancake batter if you would like and add cinnamon and oats


  1. Combine milk with vinegar in a medium bowl and set aside for 5 minutes to “sour”.
  2. Combine flour, sugar, oats, cinnamon, baking powder, baking soda, and salt in a large mixing bowl. Whisk egg and butter into “soured” milk. Pour the flour mixture into the wet ingredients and whisk until lumps are gone.
  3. Heat a large skillet over medium heat, and coat with cooking spray. Pour 1/4 cupfuls of batter onto the skillet, and cook until bubbles appear on the surface. Flip with a spatula, and cook until browned on the other side.


Presenting a meal can be done in a very stylish way…..after all, presentation is everything! If you are feeling fancy, prepare those pancakes in fun shapes! For this meal, I made my pancakes in the shape of a heart! Garnish with a strawberry, honey, confectioners sugar and serve! Who doesn’t love fancy pancakes??

Stella and Dave absolutely love them and I hope your family does too!

Put a little Style in Everything You Do….Even in the Kitchen! 🙂



Stylish in the Kitchen!

Style definitely has it’s place in the kitchen! Nothing says Love more than a home cooked meal! I happen to think cooking for your family is very stylish!

Cooking is also a great way to get the kids involved. I find if Stella helps me cook our meals, she cleans her plate….which makes me a very happy momma! Cooking with the family is also a great teaching opportunity! They can learn how important food is to our bodies and even grow to love those veggies, fruits, and proteins…..not to mention, it keeps them busy, stimulated and out of trouble.

Please do not judge my messy kitchen….not my most stylish moment! 🙂

Okay! I am going to share one of my family’s favorite meals. So put on your most STYLISH APRON and let’s get to cookin’!

Shrimp and Corn Chowder….YUMMO!


2 -3 Ears of Fresh Corn

1 tablespoon olive oil

1 medium onion, chopped

(1/2 cup) 1 medium bell pepper, chopped

(1 cup) 1 stalk celery, chopped

(1/3 cup) 2 garlic cloves, finely chopped

1 cup reduced-sodium chicken broth

3 large potatoes, peeled, cut into 1/2-inch cubes

1/4 teaspoon dried thyme leaves

1/8 teaspoon ground red pepper (cayenne)

2 tablespoons all-purpose flour

2 cups whole or nonfat milk

12 ounces shrimp, cooked peeled and deveined tails removed

**Feel free to add to or take from the ingredients. Maybe you would like more potatoes and shrimp….I say do it!


1. Boil your ears of corn until kernels are soft and easy to remove from the cob

2. In a saucepan, heat oil and 1tbsp of butter over medium heat. Saute onion, bell pepper, celery, garlic, and potatoes in oil and butter, stirring frequently, until tender. Add broth, thyme and cayenne. Heat to boiling. Reduce heat; cover and simmer 10 minutes.

3. Add corn to the mixture in saucepan (Don’t forget to remove the corn from the cob). Heat to boiling, stirring frequently. Using wire whisk, stir flour into milk until smooth; stir into mixture in saucepan. Heat to boiling. Reduce heat; simmer uncovered about 5 minutes or until vegetables are tender and soup is thickened. Stir in shrimp; cook 1 to 2 minutes or until hot. Then serve it up!

Almost forgot the best part….BACON!!! Fry your bacon until crispy and then add as garnish!

I love this chowder! It’s hardy, yummy, and the shrimp make it a great summer chowder! I hope you and your family enjoy one of our favorite meals!

Put a little STYLE in everything you do…..Even in the kitchen!

B. Blessed!