It’s My Birthday…New Year, New Me!!!

IMG_2586

Happy Birthday to ME!!!

You guys, I can not tell you how incredibly excited I am to start a new year. I have never been able to really enjoy this day and celebrate it the way I know God intended. You see I am a perfectionist…WAS a perfectionist….it’s a dirty word, I know! My level of perfectionism never really allowed me to see or love myself the way God does. Functioning in this way robbed me of so much joy.

Perfectionism seemed like a nice idea. It meant I would always strive for greatness in every single thing I set my mind to do. Sounds nice, right? The problem is that my goals and efforts are completely unquantifiable. Sure, I’d be working tirelessly and always striving to do my best but, at what expense? I became a pro at picking out my flaws which led to looking past my successes so that I could work harder; get better. Perfectionism always left me disappointed in myself and emotionally exhausted. It was easy to see greatness in everyone else and celebrate them. But, when it came to seeing greatness in myself…..eeeeke, I could not do it! I always saw “potential” and the need to work even harder….get better, so that I would be better, have more joy, etc.

IMG_4299-2.E2

I longed for a release….begged God for it actually. Have you ever been in a season of pruning? The kind of pruning that leaves most doors closed at every turn? The past couple of years have been a time of “no’s.” Now, to a perfectionist this is the worst possible season. My confidence took a nose dive, I began to take refuge in my comfort zones. I was in hiding. Hiding was easier because it meant there was a smaller risk of disappointment.  I even started to lose sight of the things God created me to do. Why?? Because, even though I have a beautiful relationship with God, I felt that I would never be good enough and my efforts would never measure up to be blessed in the way I knew God wanted to bless me. Logically, I understand that this is wrong thinking. Jesus came so that we could have life and have it more abundantly! His sacrifice sets us free….we no longer have to work to be loved and accepted.

What I needed was to hear from God in a big way! Months and months went by and God gently loved me through my heartbreaks and disappointments. He’s such a great parent! Man, I want to be just like him!! As a parent, I’m it was hard to watch me struggle but, he allowed those difficult times to teach me, to help me grow. He showed me that “mistakes” or “closed doors” aren’t tied to self worth but, are merely opportunities for growth and learning. Pure and simple. I am enough right where I am at this very moment! He also showed me….and, this one hurt a bit….perfectionism is not a personality trait but, a way to cope with unpredictability. Yeah, basically I am a control freak and I need to release my grip and trust in HIS ability to love and care for me well.

How could I love God so much and trust in him so little? This one broke my heart. This realization brought me to a cross road. Do I trust God and leap towards what He has for me? OR, Do I stay the course and do things my way?

The answer was simple! I’m ALL IN with you, God! No matter how uncomfortable I am in situations that I can not control. My trust is in you! When I am afraid to take a step but, the peace of God is there….I step because I trust in you!

You guys, once I made this mindset shift I began to hear God more clearly than ever before. You see, I was in a sort of prison. Not the kind where someone else holds the key to freedom. The prison I was in was one that I created along with the help of the enemy’s lies.  I was free to leave at any time! Ohhh my goodness!!! That realization rocked me to the core! Unlock the doors! I’m leaving this joint! I made a choice to actively resist the lies of the enemy and embrace love and the mindset of Christ through affirmations and quiet time. I am HIS, I am chosen by Him, I am loved by Him, I am enough and I needed to start acting like it!

Soooo much revelation. So much freedom. So much love!

God so lovingly reminded me of the call he has on my life, which requires me to push past fear and take many leaps of faith. I have to laugh because I can come up with all of the risks involved in leaping! I still struggle with those thoughts but, I fight them with HIS truths. I remind myself over and over again of God’s love, His plan, His guidance, His hand in mine.

What I have come to realize is that my lifestyle as a perfectionist kept me from enjoying and truly experiencing all God has for me! Sure, I’ve had great successes and blessings but, the chains of perfectionism robbed me of joy and happiness. I often felt alone and unseen. Not by the general public but, by God. You guys!!! Perfectionism was robbing my of the joy of being a wife, a mother, a friend, an actor…..

Not only do I want freedom from this type of bondage for myself but, I don’t want my children to follow in these particular footsteps! I want them to feel the fullness of joy and acceptance. No jails or chains for them because this mommy is breaking free!!

God’s love for us is filled with patience and guidance. He allowed me to walk this road to such a degree that I was ready to leave it behind. Actually, I was ready to Forest Gump this situation and run!!! It was my choice. It took courage and guidance from Him but, I did it and it feels amazing! What a good and faithful God he is!!

IMG_4279-2.E

I am beyond excited about entering this new year of my life! It was always hard to celebrate my birthday because I never felt worthy or excited about “me.” Not anymore! I am free from those chains and boy am I celebrating! I am ready for all God has for me!

With my new mindset I am able to hear God like never before! And, you better believe that I have documented and color coordinated His every word in my journal! 🙂

I hope that by sharing my journey with perfectionism it will help some of you who struggle in a similar way.

The take away…

Perfectionism is a habit. A bad one. And change doesn’t always come easy, or overnight. It’s a choice that will be made a million times over. But it is liberating, and God will walk with you hand in hand, every step of the way. Don’t allow relapses into perfectionism dissuade you from the freedom to love yourself and those around you in a beautiful way….to live the life God intended you to live!

 XOXO,

WENDY

Advertisements

Stylish eats to make with your littles…(Video at the Bottom)

I’m always up for some fun in the kitchen with my favorite girl, Stella! Cooking together is one of our favorite things to do!  I asked her to pick two of her favorite things. She quickly responded with chocolate and sprinkles! Well now, who doesn’t love chocolate and sprinkles?

Screen Shot 2016-07-29 at 6.58.03 PM

After brainstorming about all of the ways you could use chocolate and sprinkles, we settled on a fun and delicious treat! We decided to combine them and make edible ice cream bowls! Yum!

Items you will need:

1. Sprinkles – The sky is the limit! We chose traditional sprinkles and tuxedo sprinkles        (aka….crushed Oreos)

2. Melting Chocolate

3. Balloons

Directions:

1. Line a baking sheet with parchment or wax paper; set aside.

2. Clean and dry your balloons. Then blow them up to your desired bowl size.

3. Place a large, heatproof bowl over a barely simmering pot of water and melt your chocolate.

4. Once your chocolate is melted and you have carefully removed the bowl from the simmering water, begin to dip your balloon bottom into the chocolate and tilt and rotate to create the “bowl” shape. Don’t worry about perfection at this stage. The chocolate imperfections give these yummy bowls character. Besides, you are going to devour it quickly!

**CAUTION** The Balloons will pop if the chocolate is too warm. OOOOPS!!!

Screen Shot 2016-07-29 at 7.03.15 PM

5. Remove any excess chocolate off of the balloon by gently tapping or shaking. Then, immediately place the dipped balloon  into your topping. Coat the chocolate by pressing, lifting, and repeating. Do not swirl or twist the balloon into the toppings as this will cause a smeared mess…..still delicious, just not as stylish!

6. Place the finished balloons onto your baking sheet and place in the fridge for about 30 minutes or until the chocolate has hardened.

7. To remove the balloons, simply cut a small hole near the top and allow the balloon to slowly deflate. You can then easily and gently remove the balloon from your delicious chocolate bowl!

Screen Shot 2016-07-29 at 8.03.53 PM

8. Fill those yummy and Properly Stylish bowls with your fave ice cream and enjoy!

Tadaaaaaahhhhhh!!!

Screen Shot 2016-07-29 at 7.05.50 PM

 

These Properly Stylish Ice Cream Bowls get a thumbs up from Stella.

Screen Shot 2016-07-29 at 8.07.34 PM

 

We had the best time with this Properly Stylish, DIY treat! It’s an easy and fun way to get the kiddos involved in the kitchen!

You can watch all of the fun we had together while creating our ice cream dream bowls below!

XOXO,

Wendy

Sick Day Fashion….

The crazy weather here in Atlanta has rendered our little family sick….ughhhhh! My sweet Stella was up all night with a high fever and coughing. 😦 Nothings worse than seeing your baby sick…..all of you parents out there can relate! So, we were off to see the doctor first thing this morning……looking PROPERLY STYLISH, of course!

I know what you’re thinking…..”who has time to look stylish when your sick?” The answer is …..Everyone!

mom2

My ensemble today consisted of flared leg denim jeans, my husband’s comfy shirt (always a sexy little touch, especially for the hubby), cute wedges, and great accessories! All of which you have in your closet! This ensemble is your basic tee shirt and jeans with a kick! 🙂

mom

This was such an easy look to pull together……it was quick, comfy and Properly Stylish! It’s amazing how much better you feel when you look great on the outside. Funny how fashion can sometimes be great medicine for the inside. 😉

stel1

My little star was also Properly Stylish for her doc visit….gold leggings, comfy cotton tunic, leopard print uggs and funky glasses! 🙂

stel

Between us, I think she likes going to the doctor just so she can have a sucker. 🙂 Not to worry, she got a bill of clean health. No infections….just a yucky cold.

A simple, but stylish look doesn’t have to take hours to pull together. Pull out those basics and give them a boost with great accessories…..and look PROPERLY STYLISH even on the worst of days!

B. Blessed,

Wendy

Saturday Style Chic Must Haves Under $100

Feeling the need to add a few Chic items to your fashion collection without having buyers remorse? I’m always in the market for great pieces at great prices! Here are few of my faves!

bp

Hopefully you have made room in your jewelry box or better yet, invested in a bigger treasure chest for some amazing new pieces!

The Large Infinity Necklace from By Philippe is simplistic, sophisticated style at it’s best! It pairs perfectly with any ensemble and layers effortlessly with other jewels! Get it now at ByPhilippe.com!

http://www.byphilippe.com/collections/artisan-collection/products/large-infinity-necklace-n500lg

br

The Tinley Road Snake Embossed Cuff is stunning…and the price is just right! Head over to Piperlime.com to snag this treasure!

http://piperlime.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=399047002&tid=plaff3550561&ap=2&siteID=plafcid105

blazer

Add polish and sophistication to any ensemble with a tailored white blazer! I love, love, love white for every season! A blazer is such an important staple in your collection. Add it to everything from a tee shirt and jeans to the infamous little black dress! And, at $49.95 you can not pass up this blazer from H & M!

http://www.hm.com/us/product/07643?article=07643-A

pp

Oh, The Power Pump, how I have missed you! I am so thrilled you are back in my life! This sexy sling back with chain detail will surely make your tootsie’s happy! Order them from Zara.com for under $50……what???!!!

http://www.zara.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product/us/en/zara-nam-S2013/358009/1047728/CHAIN%20COURT%20SHOE

hobo

HOBO INTERNATIONAL puts a smile on my face with every piece in their collections! You can not live without the Eliza wallet! Normally priced at $118, it is a steal at SHOPPRIVATEGALLERY.COM for $70.80!

http://store.shopprivategallery.com/Eliza-Zip-Around-Print-Wallet-P4060.aspx

All this talk about my fashion faves gets me in the shopping mood! Ladies this is a great gift guide for you loved one! Send ’em over and make shopping for Valentine’s Day effortless and Properly Stylish! Happy Shopping!

Put the Proper Style in Everything You Do!

B. Blessed!

Wendy

Life In Black and White….

cr1It’s true…..the leaders in fashion design have given us permission to fill our closets with Black and White! If you’re are anything like me, you never really needed permission. 🙂 My closet is filled with everything from black and white dresses to blouses! The runways have been filled with head-to-toe black and white designs. I hold a sweet spot in my heart for Black and White fashion ensembles. The pairing is classic, timeless and simple to put together.

bw11

From Alexander Wang to Michael Kors, these high contrast looks of black and white are anything but boring! This season’s trend gives you freedom to pair bold black and white prints. ….If prints tend to overwhelm you, not to worry, keeping the trend simplistic with clean lines is the way to go!

bw6

It would be a magically fashionable world if we all rolled out of bed looking like we were plucked right off of Dior’s runway! The reality is we have families to care for, corporate ladders to climb, and a household budget we all wished was much larger! Let’s go over some ways you can rock this trend and look properly stylish!

bw9

Style Tip 1: Keep it simple!

The easiest and most economical way to wear this trend is to use black and white staples you already own! Everyone should have options to choose from, so shop in your closet before heading to your favorite stores! Pair items like a white tee with a black pencil skirt or skinny pants and accessorize with statement jewelry and a pair of pumps.

marcjacobs2013

Style Tip 2: Experiment with Bold Prints

Feeling a little bold this season? Go wild pairing several black and white printed pieces in one look. …..Or you can select one printed piece for a more subtle approach. For instance, a printed pant with a black or white blouse.

jw

Style Tip 3: Play with Textures

Leather and Lace anyone? You get the idea! 🙂

cb

Style Tip 4: Try Something Color Blocked

If your a minimalist when it comes to style, then you are going to love all of the color blocked options!

bw8

Pretty simple, right? Will you be wearing black and white this spring? I would love to hear your thoughts on this Spring 2013 Black and White Trend!

Put the Proper Style in Everything you do!

B. Blessed,

Wendy

Leather and Legs……

One of the latest trends for the fall season is leather pants and leggings. I’m a fan! This is Rocker Chic at it’s finest. This trend can be amazing with the right top…..however, it can head south quickly with the wrong ones!

To rock this look PROPERLY, allow the leather pant to be the focal piece. Keep the top simple by selecting button ups, chunky sweaters, cotton t-shirts, and blazers. This allows the pant to be the star and top, the supporting role.

Leather pants are rocker chic and HOT, HOT, HOT! Keeping the top simple, but Properly Stylish allows this ensemble to be in perfect balance. We wouldn’t wanting you attracting the wrong kind of attention….now would we? 🙂

If the leather pant trend has you a little hesitant……try a patchwork leather pant! With little patches of leather you can still achieve this rocker trend…..but in small doses! 🙂

Have fun adding great accessories! Amazing shoes are a must. Boots, pumps, sky high heels, wedges, or even your favorite pair of converse chucks are an easy way to take this look to the next level! If you are wearing a simple t-shirt with the leather pant, don’t forget your statement necklace and fabulous bag.

Real leather pants can be a big investment. You can try out this trend by selecting a faux leather pant and keep you wallet happy!

Remember, too much of good thing is not always a good thing. You do not want your ensemble to look forced. Keep the leather pants fancy and the top simple!

Put the Proper Style in Everything You Do!

B. Blessed!

Wendy

Wind, Rain, Hurricanes and Fashion!

Mother Nature can definitely make it difficult to be Properly Stylish under harsh weather conditions. Rainboot’s are a great accessory to have….especially for all of those in the path of Hurricane Sandy!

Rain boot’s have really come a long way over the years! There are so many different styles and colors available! The high heel rain boot is one of the latest trends to pound the pavement on those rainy days!

No matter what your personal style is, there’s a rain boot out there just for you!

For those of you in the path of Hurricane Sandy, stay safe,……..

Grab your favorite pair of rain boots and stay Properly Stylish through WIND, RAIN, AND HURRICANES!

B. Blessed,

Wendy